Showing posts with label books. Show all posts
Showing posts with label books. Show all posts

Sunday, January 23, 2022

"Life in the Trenches" is for Everybody

Being a homeschool parent isn't just about teaching reading and math; it's about life and who we are as parents and who our children are becoming. Even if you are not homeschooling, do not have kids, and are not even married, this book is about applying the Bible to every area of your life.

 My book, Life in the Trenches


Monday, March 30, 2020

Best Books for Boys

There are all kinds of reasons I have not gotten to this post, not the least of which is, I am not a boy. But, I recently got some input from my brother, John, who is, if anything, more of a book fiend than I am and he gave me some books to contribute to the Best Books for Boys. Some of them I had never heard of!

Unfortunately, some of what I consider to be the Best General Books are what ought to really go under Best Books for Boys and I'm afraid that if I don't put them in this list, boys will think they don't need to read them. So, I'm going to repeat some.

So, here, in no particular order, are 10 of the Best Books for Boys:

1)My Side of the Mountain, by Jean Craighead George. A boy runs away from home and is very deliberate and thoughtful about learning how to live off the land.

2) Farley Mowat books. He writes books for children as well as adults about animals that are real, not anthropomorphic. Most famous are Owls in the Family, about a family with two owls for pets and Hatchet, about a boy whose small plane crash lands in Alaska and the pilot is killed. He survives with the hatchet he just received. Farley Mowat's adult book Never Cry Wolf was made into a movie and I imagine it would make a good read for boys.

3) Beverly Cleary books. The best ones for boys are the Henry Huggins books and Ralph, the mouse books. Henry Huggins was the first book that my son read for his own amusement.

4) Mark Twain. I haven't read anything of his I didn't like. Some of it is tongue in cheek and some is quite serious. But, since boys are often the main characters (Tom Sawyer, Huckleberry Finn, The Prince and the Pauper) there is a lot of appeal for the young men in your house.

5) The Call of the Wild. Jack London is great but this one is my favorite.

6) Robert Louis Stevenson. Treasure Island, Kidnapped, and its sequel Catriona.

7) My brother's all-time favorite book as a boy -- Banner in the Sky by James Ramsey Ullman. It's about a boy whose father dies climbing in the Alps and he decides to climb the mountain in memory of his father.

8) Stalky & Co., Rudyard Kipling. I know a lot of Kipling: this one I don't. But, my brother recommends it and that's good enough for me.

9) Another recommendation from my brother is Matt Christopher books. John says they aren't great literature, but they are books about sports and are enjoyable for boys.

10) G. A. Henty was considered one of THE writers for boys and was copied by many other authors. These are historical fiction. There is a certain amount of racism, but the main characters are always admirable young men and women.

Tuesday, February 11, 2020

The Best Books for Girls

This whole blog series started because a friend asked me what books I recommended for her daughter, who is the fourth of five children and the only girl. They have plenty of boy books in their house but no girl books. My favorite books came from my grandmother, either as gifts or because I found them in her house. Most of these are discoveries from her.

Before we begin, you may ask why I did not include Little House on the Prairie or  Elsie Dinsmore. I did not for two opposite reasons. Little House books are so classic and valuable that they are not restricted to girls (my 13 year old son has been taking them out of the library to listen to.) Elsie books, on the other hand, are contrived and forced. They are fairly well written, but I imagine very few children are as persecuted as she is at the same time coddled the way she is, never having put on her own stockings! The later ones are better, to my mind. So, here are my recommendations.

1 -- The Hundred Dresses -- Eleanor Estes. She is a wonderful writer. I'll talk about her books more in a later post. This book is a shorter one but it discusses the difficulties of a poor Polish girl who lives in a small town where her classmates make fun of her and how the other girls learn to be more thoughtful.

2 -- The Goat in the Rug -- Charles L. Blood and Martin Link. This is a short story that is a one-off of a Navajo woman making a goat's wool rug from start to finish -- from the goat's perspective. I just like it.

3 -- Heidi -- Johanna Spyri. You can't beat it. It's got everything: poor orphan, grumpy grandpa, animals, getting to run free in the mountains, Christian growth, a poor little rich girl, rich city house and miraculous healing of body and relationships. It's at the top of my list of girls' chapter books.

4 -- Little Women -- really, anything by Louisa May Alcott. They are fun, the characters are vivid and relatable, even today, and the goal is to be good, even knowing the characters' flaws. After Little Women, you may want to read:






5 -- Eight Cousins and its sequel, Rose in Bloom. There is also:


6 -- Jack and Jill. All of these are great for homeschoolers because the characters are almost all homeschooled! So was Louisa May Alcott. As a result, you get the usual unusual mix of ages and sexes in the interactions of the characters that is typical of homeschoolers.

7 -- Rumer Godden books. The first one my grandmother gave me at Christmas in San Fransisco when I was eight was The Dolls' House. If you are interested in including a little fun Japanese culture, she wrote Miss Happiness and Miss Flower and its sequel, Little Plum. Home is the Sailor was one that I read to my boys -- twice! -- because it is about a boy doll in a dolls house who promises to find the older brother doll and the father doll that were lost. He does. They are full of what might be called, "nursery fantasy," the notion that dolls have lives we are not aware of. However, they can only influence the children who play with them by wishing -- read, praying.

8 -- Carol Ryrie Brink. She wrote Caddie Woodlawn, a historical novel about Brink's real-life aunt, and Baby Island.

9 -- Frances Hodgson Burnett. Her three amazing children classics are A Little Princess, The Secret Garden and Little Lord Fauntleroy. All three fall into what I would call the "orphan fantasy" genre. Though they all take place in England, the author is actually from the American South and these books were based on her fantasies as a poor young girl. However, they are beautifully written.

10 -- The Wolves of Willoughby Chase. Joan Aiken. She is incredibly prolific but her stories are somewhat farfetched. But, I always like this one. Your children may like to read more of them.

Wednesday, January 22, 2020

The Best Books for Kids -- Early Chapter Books

Of course, with books, there are all different levels and different areas of interest. I'll be doing four more lists: General easy, General difficult, Books for Girls, Books for Boys.  Here are our General easy chapter books.

1) Winnie-the Pooh! My favorite! Of course, it is classic Pooh, not Disney, and includes Winnie-the Pooh, the House at Pooh Corner, and poetry books (loads of fun!) When We Were Very Young and Now We are Six.

2) Charlotte's Web. This is the #1 bestselling children's paperback worldwide. It's a must. Along with that is E.B. White's other children's books, Stuart Little and The Trumpet of the Swan.

3) Basil of Baker Street. These are the stories the The Great Mouse Detective was based on. They are a mouse community that lives belowstairs from Sherlock Holmes. Basil models himself on Holmes!

4) The Rescuers. More anthropomorphic mouse stories that created Disney spinoffs. It is wonderful how the mice consider it to be their mission in life to support and encourage prisoners, just like St. Valentine in ancient Rome.

5) The Cricket in Times Square. More mice. But, it gives a taste of the inner city in New York along with classical music and the natural history of crickets!

6) William Steig. He writes stories about anthropomorphic animals such as Abel's Island, Sylvester and the Magic Pebble and -- Shrek!

7) The Littles. For everyone who has ever imagined little people running around the house.

8) The Borrowers. More of the above.

9) Little Bear. This should probably go in the easy reader category, but it works here, too. Lovely pictures, simple stories.

10) Time Cat. Lloyd Alexander wrote a bunch of wonderful books, but this one was the first that I ever discovered. It is about a time-traveling cat who takes his master into nine different historical places. I learned so much out of this book. I still read it with my kids.

The Best Books for Kids -- Early Books

A friend recently asked me for a list of girls' books because she has one daughter in houseful of boys. As you may know from my previous articles, I am nuts about books! The best books came from my grandmother, who was an English and Speech teacher. I either found them in her house or she gave them to me. So, I am going to give you my ten favorite books by category, either by author or title.

The first category is Easy, but I'm assuming your kids are pretty good readers.

1) Mother Goose. Can't top this. The kids love the rhythm and rhyme. I saw Mother Goose's grave in Boston at the age of nine and was completely thrilled. I didn't know she was a real person!

2) Grimms' Fairy Tales. Don't get the Disney version. The import is lost if Little Red Riding Hood doesn't get eaten.

3) Ferdinand. I discovered this as a child. I just love the artwork and the "sit just quietly." 

4) James Arnosky. He writes non-fiction about nature and does the watercolor illustrations himself. It is quiet and beautiful.

5) Robert McCloskey. Remember Blueberries for Sal? Make Way for Ducklings? That's him.

6) Thomas the Tank Engine. The early days. It is fun with flawed characters and a message about pleasing God. The later books dropped away from the message to simple entertainment.

7) Llama, Llama, Red Pajama. My daughter loves reading this with her kids. The rhythm, rhyme, and typical conflict (going to bed) are wonderful for developing relationship with your kids.

8) Beatrix Potter. Of course! Greatest adventure stories in the nursery!

9) ABC books, especially Handmade Alphabet. I started teaching my kids reading from a curriculum. By kid number 4, I was teaching them just with ABC books. Handmade Alphabet has no words but has beautiful colored pencil drawings of hands in the International Manual alphabet. My later kids learned the manual alphabet along with the printed alphabet and it helped their decoding tremendously.

10) Dr. Seuss. We couldn't do without him. The first books I remember reading were Green Eggs and Ham and Hop On Pop. Historically, he rejuvenated the phonics method of reading and got us out of the purgatory of Dick and Jane.




























































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Wednesday, January 1, 2020

The Oldest of Old-Fashioned Lessons -- Read Great Books!

A liberal education, where one is exposed to all manner of views should confirm whatever is right and good. In college, studying Plato confirmed my faith because it lined up in its arguments with the Bible. Studying the Buddhist scriptures confirmed my Christian faith because it seemed very far-fetched that a real man would have been born to a princess with 200 ladies in attendance and a white elephant passing by at the very moment of his birth. Talk about a fairy tale! Books postulating strange sociological experiments, such as Walden II, proved useless me practically and emotionally when I got pregnant during my freshman year of college. But, the Bible comforted me and Christians supported me.

Allan Bloom's concern as expressed in The Closing of the American Mind back in the 1980s was that students were coming to college not to have their minds broadened through the great thought of the millenia but to be confirmed in their own agendas by dismissing those great thoughts out of hand simply because the authors were white and male and, ergo, privileged. I have had discussions with my scary-smart teenage niece who said, in so many words, that because the classic authors came from a privileged class of white men, they should be dismissed as irrelevant to our culture.

Her argument in 2020 is not new. Bloom was running into it forty years ago. But, culture is transient. The 2020s American culture is different from the 1980s culture, which is different from the 1950s, from the 1920s, from the 1880s. But, morality, which is the subject of all great thought through the ages, is universal in every culture. How do I relate to God? How do I relate to my fellow man? What is the nature of good? Is man capable of being good? No matter where or when you live, these questions govern our lives and must be studied if we are to be more than animals. Classic literature, old lessons, address these, no matter who wrote them. Questions of race or sexism are secondary to those issues but progressives would make them primary. Why do you think they would skip over the primary issue -- "how should I behave toward my fellow man?" -- to the secondary issue -- "how should others behave?" Isn't it so that they can continue to do as they please while other people are required to change?

Alan Paton was a white South African who wrote anti-apartheid novels while running a reformatory for black South African youth in the 1960s and 70s. He was addressing how people should treat one another -- an issue of morality -- and, as a white man, his books admitted a need for whites to treat all humans equally.

Ghandi, in a famous speech givin in South African (you can see it in the 1982 film, Ghandi) said, "I am willing to die for what I believe. I am not willing to kill for it." While he was trying to change how society treated each other, the most important issue for him was, "How do I behave toward my fellow men?"

This is all part of the Synthesis that your children will go through as they determine what is important to them and how they will live their lives. And, our job as parents is to be an example that change starts with me, not the other guy. Whether it is Socrates' argument to his disciples against escaping Athens illegally when he had been unjustly condemned to death, or Tolstoy's juxtaposition of a life lived for others as opposed to a life lived for self in Anna Karenina, Shakespeare's argument for mercy in The Merchant of Venice -- because if we live by the law, every letter of the law must be followed -- Jane Austen's observation that the more prideful one is, the more prejudiced one is both for and against his fellow man, or Tolkein's lesson that even the smallest person doing the right thing can change the world, the classics address this question: "What must I do?" It is the greatest of all the Old-Fashioned Lessons. If someone makes the point of their education all about them -- "How should the world treat me?" -- what a small world it would be! "How should I treat others?" causes us to look out instead of in. It broadens our world. How I treat my fellow man is a pertinent question anywhere in the world, on a farm in Wisconsin, in downtown Tokyo or in the Amazon jungle. But, progressives of all stamps are only pertinent in their own environments. Racism against blacks or hispanics disappears if they move to different countries where the majority of people are black or hispanic. Radical feminism is the most prevalent worldwide in countries where women have the most freedom to express themselves. I have not heard of a huge movement of American feminists taking action in Saudi Arabia or Iran for those women's rights. Switzerland, the last country in the western world to grant women the right to vote, was the only country to do so by referendum -- which means that MEN voted for women to have the right to vote. The point being that culture as a focus of education is destined to become irrelevant wherever it is.

Allan Bloom asked his Introduction classes, "What books really count for you?" A few people said, "The Bible," but the students rarely studied it after leaving home. Books don't matter to us, anymore. But, they should. We know what someone means when they call someone, "a Scrooge," or "Eeyore-ish." This is because of a common literary tradition that gives depth of feeling as well as of moral understanding. Allan Bloom says that classic literature gives students models of good and bad and, ". . . a fund of shared experiences and thoughts on which to ground their friendships with one another." (Bloom, Allan; The Closing of the American Mind; Simon and Schuster; New York; c. 1987; p. 344.) We can't communicate with each other on a deeper level if our entertainment is limited to pop culture through TV, movies, pop music, the latest vampire romance, dystopian novels or agenda-steeped social media. All those things are light, shallow, fleeting. Unless your media has passed the test of time, its influence on the world is insignificant. It is the difference between dipping out a puddle with a spoon or dipping out a pool with a bucket.

But, look how much time we spend on all that fluff! It's not as if people haven't been writing or painting or composing fluff over the millenia in dozens of languages. But, only the great lasted, the stuff that truly is life-changing. Even great authors rarely produce uniformly great books. Shakespeare's hack-and-slash lay Titus Andronicus, simply doesn't match up to Hamlet or Julius Caesar. Herman Melville wrote a couple of popular sea adventures, then wrote Moby Dick, which Mark Twain considered to be the only great book of world literature ever produced in America. It was a financial failure, none of his other books were worth much and he died in poverty working as a customs agent. Even Jane Austen's books, which are unusual in that they are all still in print, include Northanger Abbey, a farce on contemporary gothic novels which is a little bewildering to the modern reader.

How many great French books can you name? Les Miserable and The Hunchback of Notre Dame? Spanish? Don Quixote. German? Mostly poets --  Goethe and Schiller -- and philosophers such as Kant and Nietzsche. Russian? A little more there: War and Peace, Anna Karenina, The Brothers Karamazov. There is just not a lot of literature that can be called great. So, instead of spending our lives on mountains of trash that add nothing to our lives, we should study great literature, the lives of great people and see what we can learn from them. They will give us a solid foundation.

Tuesday, July 30, 2019

Old-Fashioned Lessons that Never Go Out of Style - Silence

Time for a new series!

What has been growing on us in our family is that simple is best. In the "old days," they didn't have all the fancy bells-and-whistles curricula that are available now and they produced Shakespeare, Jane Austen, John Wesley, and Thomas Jefferson. How did they do it?

With simple lessons.

Fred Rogers --  yes: Mr. Rogers -- told his documentarian, Benjamin Wagner, "I feel so strongly that deep and simple is so much more essential than shallow and complex." He went on to say, "Spread the message."

I was looking for a unifying theme to my message and God gave it to me through Mr. Rogers.

The first lesson is Silence.

Depth does not come in noise. Simplicity is scattered by trivia like tossing a handful of pea gravel into a pond when the daily auditory clutter is swirling around us through voices, earbuds, and the sound of household machinery. Our current houses are rarely quiet. Even putting aside the sound of the heat or air conditioning coming on, the refrigerator hums, the computer hums, the light on the television NEVER goes off and the video game console seems impossible to turn off without unplugging it. I have to go looking for silence in my own house.

But, God speaks in silence: in Elijah's cave, in Jesus' 40 days in the wilderness, in Moses' isolation near the burning bush "at the back of the wilderness," in Philip's encounter with the Ethiopian eunuch in the desert, in the WWII concentration camp inmate who cleared the drain to the cesspool -- no one came near him for two years, not even the guards. He said he got to know God in the cesspool.

You may have read a post I shared awhile back about Uninterrupted Silent Reading in my public school. The entire school, janitor and secretary included, read from 1:05 to 1:25 every day. There was Silence, a hush over the entire school, a moment of blessed peace. In her video series, The Peaceful Home, Elisabeth Eliot told us about Quiet Time. For an hour every day, each of her eight grandchildren were in their beds, not talking. We adopted this and, to this day, over 20 years later, we still have quiet time after lunch. It is when we do our reading assignments. There is no music, no talking, no interrupting for one hour.

In Silence is where we think. We nap. We cogitate. We daydream. The thoughts we have received in our reading and math and Bible and family talking get sorted out and applied during that time. My second son, Mick has had major experiences with Silence.

As a four year old, he could decode words, but didn't know he could actually read until he was forced to sit for one hour with nothing but books to entertain him.

He took unbelievably long showers and worked calculus problems in his head to design a new style of compound bow. That bow is still in his head, but you know what I'm talking about.

He spent hours and hours out in the woods. His Bible is actually a waterproof Bible that has special paper that won't wrinkle when it gets wet because he spent so much time hunting -- which means, sitting in the woods. It was there  that he learned who God was as he overcame his fear of the dark, thought about what he had learned at Discipleship Jiu Jitsu, read through the entire Bible and prayed.

Depth of learning only comes when a person has had time to absorb what he has learned and fit it into his world view. That absorption only happens if there is nothing to distract. Only Silence allows that.

Wednesday, January 9, 2019

#15 of 15 Ways To Teach Your Child to Write Using Books -- To Have Your Child's Heart

Here we are! The last of our 15 Ways. And, after all we've been through, we need to discuss why we are even doing this.

Why do we choose to have children? Frankly, to have a heritage, someone to pass down what is important to us to. Unfortunately, sometimes those things can't be passed down or are done unhealthily because we have lost our children's hearts.

We keep our children's hearts by maintaining our authority while respecting them as individuals. How do books enable us to do that?

20 years ago, I attended the Illinois Christian Home Educators Conference and sat in on a session led by the curriculum specialist for the state of Illinois. She mentioned book reports -- a standard school assignment, right? She said she NEVER had her children do book reports because all it teaches them is that reading results in drudgery. Instead, she would ask a child about the book he had read and sometimes had a fascinating, in-depth discussion with him. Her reasoning? She wanted a relationship with her child, not a piece of paper they were both eager to see the last of. And, the best way to get a relationship with her child was by talking about the books he had read.

While sitting after breakfast reading (everything from the Bible to poetry, to novels to leadership books), we have had a wonderful chance to listen to our children. Even the very youngest can bring up an example from his own picture books or Sunday School lessons that applies to the topic at hand. And, when he does, we can commend him, thus showing him respect and firming up our relationship with him.

We each hope we are doing the best we can and are getting better all the time. And, don't we hope for our children that they will be even better than we are? If we show them and their ideas respect, when they are the one writing the books, establishing the policies, teaching the next generation, they will delight in the lessons we shared and will carry our values to the future.

#14 of 15 Ways to Teach Your Child to Write Using Books -- It Takes Time

Every subject takes time to learn, whether you are doing block study -- studying a single subject in-depth intensively for a short period of time -- or piecing it out over a year. My daughter, Becki, Queen of Research, has discovered that if you study any subject for either 1,000 hours or 7 years, that you will become an expert in it. We can have our students fill in blanks in workbooks, or dissect the passages they read, but that kind of literary education is actually quite new, being taught starting only in the 50s and 60s. C. S. Lewis, the English professor, despised this kind of literary analysis. He preferred the traditional, immersion method. He himself was a voracious reader reading every book in his father's house - and books were stacked on the stairs and in the attic. The immersion method teaches by osmosis. Children learn language usage by reading the best books.

I have never taught Grammar. Once, maybe, for a few weeks. And, we've read "Eats, Shoots, and Leaves", a funny book about punctuation. But, aside from helping my graduates format their final papers, never have I taught Grammar and every one of them got 24 or above on the English portion of the ACT and those who took the English CLEP passed the first time. They may not know what a noun is, but they definitely understand noun/verb agreement. But, this comes from hours reading on their own, both required and elective reading, and reading together.

I heard a quote from a football player: "An amateur practices till he gets it right; a professional practices until he can't get it wrong." And, that only comes with time, whether practicing football, or the English language.

#13 of 15 Ways to Teach Your Child to Write Using Books -- Relax and Enjoy Yourself

I just got a book in the mail yesterday. And, I asked the kids if they wanted to read it with me. They were less than enthusiastic.

You see, as I said before, we just finished reading "Alice in Wonderland" -- required reading. And, I looked at my list of books I wanted to read with the kids and I saw E. Nesbit's "5 Children and It," which I chose because it was one of JRR Tolkein's and C. S. Lewis's favorite books when they were children. But, 16-yr-old Mimi damped everyone on that by making a disgusted face and saying, "that was just weird." So, the kids were not in the most receptive state of mind for reading a book.

But, then, I explained to them about this book. It was called "The Whispering Mountain" (that sounded promising) and I had been trying to find it for years. It wasn't at the bookstores, though Joan Aiken is still having books printed, and it wasn't in the Southwest Wisconsin Library System. So I had to order it. I think it had to be shipped from England! And, I assured them that not only could we stay up late, but there was absolutely nothing educational about it! That got them very excited.

So, although the little boys were playing with their new velcro ball-and-plastic-mitt game, and Anna was looking at manga pictures on the internet, and I was quilting, and we weren't able to finish the chapter (it was 34 pages long!), we read around and were relaxed and Mom wasn't scolding, "Now, pay attention! This is important!" And, you can read all the greatest books in the world but, as Prof. Rosalie de Rosset said so long ago, "If you don't enjoy it, you won't get anything out of it." So, have fun!

#11 of 15 Ways to Teach Your Child to Write Using Books -- "What Does the Bible Say About That?"

For all kinds of reasons, this is the most important question you can ask you children about the books they read or the things they watch.

The first reason is, the Bible is THE standard. It has been called a great book of literature, but is is more than that: it is THE great book of literature and can be compared to no other book. Every other book is compared to it. The wisdom it teaches is perfect, the characterizations of people is perfect, its standard of behavior and action and motivation are perfect. Every literary theme, every character, every plot can be taken to the Bible and held up next to it to see if it is the truth, because the Bible only tells the Truth. Of course, this requires familiarity with the Bible and, while we're reading aloud, why not read the Bible? This morning, we had a lively discussion over the breakfast table about Gehazi, Elisha's servant, who essentially stole the gifts Naaman the leper offered to Elisha for his healing but Elisha refused. The discussion of selfishness, the nature of lying, the importance of volunteering in Christian witness was quite lengthy. The kids will be able to apply this to other areas in life and, during our discussion the kids brought up previous lessons from the Bible, as well. It all builds on itself.

Shakespeare is lauded as a premier psychologist and poet, using every plot device and literary mechanism known to Man. But, the Bible tops him because we don't have a man's spin on the Truth, (as in his "Richard III") we just have the Truth. So, after the nature of the Bible, our title question is important for teaching our children what to write. And, even if they never write after completing school, it will teach them how to judge every piece of media that comes their way for the rest of their lives.

#10 of 15 Ways to Teach Your Child to Write Using Books -- Character

Who are these people we are reading about? What makes them who they are? How does the author show us what kind of person they are? Do we admire the kind of person this is? What does the Bible say about how they are behaving?
All of these are questions to explore with your children while reading.

Characters are more important to the theme of a story than any other single aspect. When your child is very young, you can ask, "Who is the good/bad guy? How do you know?" As they get more experienced, you can discuss, not just their actions, but the words the author chooses to describe them, the kind of companions he has, both human and animal (think Disney animal sidekicks), the kind of family or house he lives in (Sauron in Mordor vs. elves in Rivendell), and even the name the author chooses. "Danny Rugg," from the Bobbsey Twins always sounded like a bully to me. "Captain Ahab" tells you all you need to know about the character in Moby Dick, named after the most godless king of Israel ever. "Bilbo," "Frodo," "Pippin," and "Merry" are all bouncy cheerful hobbit names, while "Samwise" has common sense written all over it.

Personally, my favorite class in public school was Reading/English and, specifically group discussion. The great thing about stories shared with your children is that any story is fair game: docudramas about history, Disney movies, picture books and novels all have characters, real and fictional, whose personalities and presentation can be examined. When we examine those characters, it helps children to not only understand the story better, but present characters in their writing, as well as examine their own characters and who they want to be as they grow up. For instance, my son Ben really disliked Tom Sawyer. Tom Sawyer is supposed to epitomize The American, but Ben thought he was conniving and self-serving and decided that he didn't admire him. As a businessman today, he is evaluating how to live his life -- not like Tom Sawyer!

#9 of 15 Ways to Teach Your Child to Write Using Books -- What's the Point?


Every book -- every GOOD book -- has a theme, an overriding point that, in the greatest of books, is never forgotten. Every plot point, every character, every description of place supports the theme. I have come to realize that the very greatest books -- and there are only a few -- discuss the relationship of God and man. That would include Milton's "Paradise Lost", "Moby Dick," Victor Hugo's "Les Miserables" and Dosteoevsky's "Brothers Karamozov". These books are not for the faint of heart! I've only read 2 of them and am working on a 3rd; "Les Mis" was just too depressing. But, every great book has a theme. "Alice in Wonderland's" is the joy of childhood, "Winnie-the-Pooh's" is the wisdom of simple things, "Pride and Predudice's" is that the more pride one has, the more prejudiced one will be.

Not everyone is going to write a great book of world literature: witness how few have been written. But, we can still learn about carrying a theme through and supporting it with every tool at our disposal by examining the books we read. And, the great question to ask your children to discover this when reading is "What's the point?" "What is the author trying to say?" "And, how do we know?" "Prove it!" As my H. S. English teacher, Dr. Grosch, used to write at the top of my analyses of Shakespearean sonnets: "Evidence!"

Perhaps this won't be the most fun time you spend reading with your children, but, when their eyes are opened to it, their own writing will become so much better. When they see that the preacher in Moby Dick climbs up into a pulpit made of whale ivory and pulls the ladder up behind him to preach from his literal "ivory tower," they will see the breadth of what can be done in their own writing.

#7 of 15 Ways to Teach Your Child to Write Using Books

#7 of 15 Ways to Teach Your Child to Write Using Books
"There's No Such Thing as a Stupid Question"

This was one of my mother's favorite sayings. She talks about our family going on a tour to Monticello, for instance, and my brother or my asking a question of the guide. She said you could see the faces of the adults change: they went from being closed, cold, "I don't want to look ignorant" faces to relaxed, warm, "I'm so glad someone asked that because I wanted to know too and was afraid of looking foolish" faces. But, my mother had taught us, "The only stupid question is the one you don't ask," so we weren't afraid to ask questions. That doesn't include obvious questions that are meant to obstruct the flow and show how clever someone is. You know what I'm talking about. But, while you read with your child, any question is fair game. I admit, while reading 1-on-1 with my mom, I could ask questions that were VERY far afield from the subject at hand and I haven't been able to do that while reading with 4 or 5 kids. But, when they have a sincere question, I try to get to the bottom of it. I say that because sometimes 4-year-olds have very pertinent questions or connections to make that they don't have the vocabulary for. But, the questions that children ask about the reading is helping them to make sense of it, to apply it, and to make connections and connections are what education is all about. As my ex-nun history teacher Mrs. Maureen Schmidt expressed it, education is a process of learning to Memorize, then Analyze, then Synthesize information. This corresponds completely to the medieval Trivium still used by Classical Education -- Grammar, Dialectic and Rhetoric. It's basically learning something, pulling it apart, and putting it back together again in a new way. The best way to learn that is by reading together and asking questions. Why else do we write?

#6 of 15 Ways to Teach Your Child to Write Using Books -- Read Around

#6 of 15 Ways to Teach Your Child to Write Using Books
Read Around --
This is a family expression. It means, for us, taking turns reading. It accomplishes so much for your children.

First of all, you can hear how well you child is reading and coach him, if necessary. Reading aloud improves anyone's reading more than any other exercise. You can't fake it when you read aloud.

Secondly, it becomes a group project. "Were all in this together." Part of that is learning courtesy: the kids don't want to be criticized themselves, so they are patient with one another. If they aren't, it is a chance for them to learn.
Each child in our family would read according to his ability. So, I have the 5-year-old read the chapter title, the 8-year-old read a page, the 12-year-old read 2, the 14-year-old, 3, etc. I'll finish the chapter or read 4-5 pages and then we start over. With older kids, we alternate chapters. "Whose read is it?" is a familiar cry at our house.

I admit, this is a family culture. You can feel free to create your own. But, it has meant so much to our family that I take great joy in passing it on. I couldn't begin to list the different relatives I've read with and the different books we've read. The tradition is continuing, with my daughter taking her daughter to read with my mother after church every Sunday. The close family relationships, the common language and frame of reference, the depth of understanding from discussion, the shared jokes have all helped shape me as a writer and a person. I have seen it do the same for my children, where they start to read together without me, discuss books and films and guide each others' writing. You may not have that same culture, but, I have seen it happen too often to doubt that reading around helps writing.

#5 of 15 Ways to Teach Your Child to Write With Books -- Learn to Like Good Books

#5 of 15 Ways to Teach Your Child to Write With Books
Learn to Like Good Books

Rosalie deRosset taught English at Moody Bible Institute in Chicago for decades. I attended a workshop she held at a Women in Christ conference in the late 1980s. I know last time I said that you need to read for fun and, in the beginning, you should read anything to foster that. But, eventually, you should expand your taste. If you learn to love good books -- great books -- you will be spending your time with the great thinkers. And, this is what you will be sharing with your children. As I said in the first post, their vocabulary and comprehension will expand by reading great books. You can start by reading good children's books, even on your own.

I love children's literature. My favorites: "Alice in Wonderland", "The Wind in the Willows", "Winnie-the-Pooh", "The Hobbit", and "The Chronicles of Narnia". What do they have in common? Aside from the fact that they are all British authors, they were all written before or around WWII. Almost all books written before WWII were written from a Christian world view and by people with great depth of character and breadth of experience. To expand this list, I would add books by Louisa May Alcott, Mark Twain, Charles Dickens, E. B. White, Laura Ingalls Wilder, and the book "Heidi". Great children's literature gets one used to the deeper mental requirements of great old literature like Sir Walter Scott, Shakespeare, and Jane Austen. Not only that, but they are still in print because they LASTED; they were GOOD, entertaining and creative. And, the books that children read will be reflected in their writing.

When Becki was 6, she drew a picture in church of a dollhouse. She labelled the rooms including "the parlor", which she didn't call "living room" because she didn't read books new enough to use that particular phrase. It will be exciting to see what your kids come up with, I promise.

Tuesday, May 29, 2018

#4 of 15 Ways to Teach Your Child to Write Using Books - Read for Fun!


This means you!


If you only read aloud -- what we call "reading around" -- taking turns -- for educational reading alone, then reading will not be considered of value by your children. Writing isn't fun because reading isn't fun -- it's a chore; it's school. How about its being cuddle time in front of the fire or on the front porch on a sunny morning? We do it with our preschoolers; why not with our teens?

But, before reading can be fun with your kids, it has to be fun for you. Do your children see you spending time reading? Maybe it's your favorite gardening magazine, maybe it's Danielle Steel, but if you make reading a priority -- not because someone is making you -- they will wonder what the big deal is and try it out for themselves. My mother spent most of my childhood in the corner of the sofa knitting, playing solitaire and, above all, reading. She tells us that as toddlers, we would crawl up under her book to see what was so absorbing.

I have many friends who insist they are not readers, others who have hardly a book in the house, who have not been to the library since their 3rd grade field trip. People don't all have to be readers. But, if you want your children to be moderately eloquent writers, you have to be a reader. Read cookbooks, manga books, magazines, atlases, "as told to" autobiographies, even your own kids' stories. Then, when you've gotten a taste of the enjoyment of reading, read with your kids for fun. Let them pick the book and enjoy the time with them.

#3 of 15 Ways to Teach Your Child to Write Using Books - Read Together


Reading aloud together is probably the most valuable educational tool you will ever have. I consider this to be of such importance that I am going to dismantle the subject and detail it further in later posts. But, why is this so important?

Well, quite apart from teaching your children to write, you are teaching your children that they are loved. You are teaching them that reading with them is something you are willing to take the time to do with them. When they pick the book, you are valuing their opinions. When you pick the book, you are showing respect for them, that you consider them worthy companions and intelligent enough to share your interests with.

Educationally, what does reading offer, particularly to the subject of writing? It exposes children to a greater vocabulary and to more difficult concepts than they have the capacity for on their own since they usually have a greater auditory understanding than visual understanding of language. It gives you all a chance to ask questions and pull apart meaning that can be applied in later experiences. My children love Shakespeare because I never have them read it. We watch it on DVD. Since the oldest were in their early teens, I would periodically stop the show and ask,"OK, do you know what's going on?" At which, they usually said, "No," and I would explain. That allowed them to "get" the story and really enjoy it.

Lastly, reading aloud gives your children a chance to use you as a sound board for digesting what they have read and applying it to their lives. And, that is the foundation of good writing.

#2 of 15 Ways to Teach Your Child to Write Using Books - Uninterrupted Silent Reading


Our family always had this informally because my brother broke the TV when he was 7 and, in a  house full of introverts, books were our entertainment. But, when I was 11, our Ogden Elementary School instituted Uninterrupted Silent Reading. From 1:05-1:25 everyone in the school, including the janitor and school secretary, read. There were 20 minutes of profound blessed peace. The only rule was that the book had to have words. There was some discussion at first but comic books were finally allowed. You could read anything you want except "Spy Vs. Spy" (a wordless comic strip.) You could read Hardy Boys, Little House on the Prairie (very popular among pre-teen girls at the time), or Judy Blume  (though there were some questions about the immorality of some of her books.) Personally, I went to the English teacher's glass-fronted shelves and, in 20 minutes a day, over a 9-month period I read Dickens's Oliver Twist and Jules Verne's From the Earth to the Moon.

What did USR accomplish? It developed the habit of reading. The students saw that reading was valuable, not busy work, because even grown-ups did it. They were given the opportunity to start making their own choices in books. It brought a moment of rest to an inherently busy and chaotic institution. Students learned that they could accomplish something -- actually finish a book! -- in 20 minutes a day. They began to develop a fund of stories that gave them something to write about. Let's face it, no matter what the art -- fishing,computers, chess, figure skating or music -- you don't develop the desire to do it yourself until you see someone else do it, and that includes using words.

#1 of 15 Ways to Teach Your Child to Write Using Books: Talk About Stories


My adult son, Ben, is my writing club. Almost all of my kids have spent time writing but he is a natural. We still have his first story. At age 6, he wrote descriptions of the evil lord's castle with ugly dogs fighting over the bones and the happy castle with puppies in the corner. He studies writing and challenges me, partly by quoting me back to to myself. But what we do most is talk about stories, both in film and on paper.

My mother and I did this. We read hours together and always stopped to go on a bunny trail sprung from the reading. My husband did this, stopping a movie to ask the kids, "Okay, what's happening here?" When we read stories with the children, we ask them what they see in the picture that gives them a fuller picture of the story. Lewis Carroll's Alice in Wonderland was the first place this was done, even to the placement of the pictures and text on the page, and Little Critter books are nothing special at all if you don't look at the humor (where Little Critter is really coming from) in the pictures.

When my children want to talk about stories, I always listen, whether it is something they have written or read or even an online anime program they are following. I once listened to my 15 year old daughter, Becki, go through the complicated storyline of every single Eragon book over pancakes at IHOP.

We all learn from stories and talking about them helps us to process them and apply them to our lives. If we are interested in stories, our children will want to produce them. They will become writers.